Relationship

Couple therapy and coaching

I counsel couples whose relationship seems to have stalled and who can no longer work it out together. Because, is the relationship with your love partner complicated at the moment? Do you struggle to understand each other, love each other and really see and accept each other as you are? Being in a relationship can be challenging at times, no matter how long or short you've been together. Sometimes because a lot has happened within the relationship, sometimes because you just slowly grew apart, sometimes because you lose contact with each other and communication becomes difficult.


Removal

Where there used to be love and connection, you are now in a phase where the relationship suddenly runs smoothly. It seems like there is more distance between each other. It is becoming increasingly difficult to understand each other and to communicate with each other in a connecting way. A lot may have happened and changed in your life and you are struggling to find each other again in this situation. Maybe there are a lot of fights, you have hurt each other, or you barely speak to each other anymore. Then it is not easy to get out again with the two of us. There may have been a pattern that you cannot easily step out of. For example, you always end up in the same discussions, you live alongside each other, there is misunderstanding, distrust or you feel removed from each other.


My guidance is aimed at exploring together what you are up against in the relationship, which behavioral and communication patterns are currently hindering you and breaking the vicious circle in which you have ended up together. With the help of IBCT (Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy) and TA (Transactional Analysis) I guide you to more insight and awareness.

Goals

Being happy together again. Feeling love and connection again. Being able to understand and accept each other again. Being able to laugh together and be intimate again. Understand that Love is a verb. Being able to be autonomous and making a sincere connection from there.


No matter how difficult it feels right now, you can always work on a relationship, even if you are now doubting whether there is still enough love to continue together. I am happy to support you in this process.


Working on the relationship is always working on yourself. Because also in the relationship everything starts and ends with you. When you are not feeling well, the connection with your partner can also become more difficult. Your life experiences, in your youth and in previous relationships, influence who you are now, how vulnerable you dare to be and how you communicate with the other person. Connection with the other always starts with connecting with yourself.


As a result, it is quite possible that some individual sessions can be part of your relationship therapy. Homework assignments can also be part of the guidance.

Why couples therapy

Struggling with your relationship isn't really what you want. Lovingly interacting with each other and feeling safe with the other is what most people need to feel happy and to give meaning to life. What is needed for this is the skill to be able to talk about your feelings and desires, to forgive each other's 'mistakes' and to have tools to stay away from your pitfalls.


Do you recognize yourself in one or more of the points below?

    You feel lonely in the relationship You regularly experience tensions or conflicts. You do not feel supported by your partner. You no longer trust your partner, or your partner no longer trusts you. One of you has cheated. Sex and intimacy go not the way you want or feel like a task You have a busy family life and are looking for a way to be partners in addition to parenthood. You don't know if you want to continue together and think it's important to make a good decision here. losing each otherYou see no way out of the vicious circle?

Be welcome

Are you interested? You are very welcome to make an appointment for an intake interview. During this conversation we will get acquainted and together we will investigate what you are struggling with, what you would like to change and what I could do for you. It goes without saying that this conversation is also intended to see together whether I am the right person to guide you. If this is decided, it will be agreed how often you will have a meeting. Usually this is once every two weeks, following what you need. The guidance usually consists of about ten conversations.


The therapy starts by mapping out what connects you and what is bothering you. It is examined whether other factors have influenced your relationship. Based on the problems and possibilities, a plan is made with a view of the shared goals. I guide you in clarifying what is needed to improve your relationship, and in putting it into practice. It is possible that joint conversations (with both of you) alternate with individual conversations. You are very welcome to make an appointment. I am already available to you at short notice. Do you have any questions? Please do not hesitate to contact me.

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